Is My Problem Big Enough for Counselling

Something I hear quite often from new clients is: “I wasn’t sure if my problem was big enough to bring to counselling.”

It’s a really common worry. Many people imagine therapy is only for those in deep crisis, or dealing with something that feels life-changing. Others tell me they felt guilty even considering counselling because they thought “other people have it worse.”

If you’ve ever had that thought yourself, I want to reassure you: counselling isn’t about the size of your problem. It’s about your experience, your feelings, and what’s going on in your life.

Why We Question Ourselves

I’ve noticed that people often hold back from seeking support because of comparison. They look at others and think, “I should be able to cope,” or “my situation isn’t as bad as theirs.”

There’s also still stigma around mental health. Some people worry they’ll be judged if they say they’re struggling with stress, low mood, or self-confidence, because those issues don’t seem “serious enough.”

But here’s the truth: pain isn’t a competition. If something is affecting your life, your relationships, or your sense of wellbeing, it’s valid.

What Counselling is Really For

Counselling isn’t about whether a struggle is big or small. It’s about creating a safe, supportive space to explore your world.

Over the years, I’ve worked with people on a wide range of experiences, including:

• Stress at work.

• Relationship difficulties.

• Anxiety that shows up in certain situations.

• Loss or bereavement.

• Low self-esteem.

• Feeling stuck in life.

• Adjusting to changes like a new job, moving house, or becoming a parent.

  
  

Some of these might look “small” on the surface. But if it matters to you, if it affects your day-to-day life, it’s big enough to talk about.

The Cost of Minimising

When we tell ourselves “this isn’t a big deal” or “I should just get on with it,” what usually happens? The problem doesn’t disappear — it lingers. Sometimes it grows. Stress builds into burnout, small worries turn into constant anxiety, or feelings of disconnection in a relationship deepen over time.

By dismissing your struggles, you might delay getting the very support that could help you feel lighter, clearer, and more resilient.

Counselling is About You, Not Comparison

One of the most important things I share with clients is that therapy is never about comparison. What brings you into the counselling room is unique to you. Your story, your feelings, and your perspective are what matter.

Whether you want to make sense of a recent change, untangle unhelpful patterns, or simply have a place to talk things through, counselling can meet you where you are.

Giving Yourself Permission

If you’ve ever asked yourself “is my problem big enough?” I encourage you to flip the question. Instead ask:

• “Is this affecting me enough that I’d like some support?”

• “Would talking about this help me feel clearer or lighter?”

  
  

If the answer is yes, then it’s more than enough reason to reach out.

You don’t need to earn your place in counselling. The very fact you’re considering it shows that your wellbeing matters to you. And that’s reason enough.

Final Thoughts

Counselling isn’t reserved for those in crisis or those with the “biggest” struggles. It’s for anyone who wants space to reflect, process, and move forward with greater ease.

If something is on your mind and impacting your life, then yes, it’s big enough for counselling.

And if you’d like to explore whether counselling could support you, I’d be glad to hear from you. Hit the free consultation button to arrange an informal, no obligation telephone call with me.